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The 7 myths of perfection

1. Myth: Perfection is attainable. The hard reality is that perfection is an impossible and endless pursuit that will only lead to your frustration and burnout. Striving for perfection is a never-ending cycle that will likely lead to disappointment and self-doubt. The pursuit of perfection can also cause you to focus on your flaws and shortcomings rather than your strengths and accomplishments. 2. Myth: Perfection equates to success The real story is that success is subjective and personal with often little to do with being perfect. In fact, striving for perfection can actually impede your progress and success. The myth that perfection equates to success is another harmful belief associated with perfectionism. The reality is that success is subjective, and is a personal measure of achievement that has little to do with whether you are being perfect or not. 3. Myth: Perfect people are happier That “Perfect People” are happier than others is a common misconception. Happiness is not exclusively tied to perfectionism, but is more closely tied to achievement. In fact, if you have a perfectionist’s personality, you may often struggle with anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues. You will not necessarily garner the success that you might think a perfectionist would have. This is partly due to the personal anxiety felt that often leads to feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt, and low self-esteem. 4. Myth: Perfection is a desirable trait Of course you want to be as perfect as you can be, but there is a distinct difference between being driven to be the best you can be, and being perfect. In fact, perfectionism can be detrimental to many things such as relationships, career advancement, and overall well-being. The constant need to be perfect can lead to a lack of authenticity and vulnerability, which can hinder the development of meaningful relationships. Perfectionism can also lead to missed opportunities and a lack of creativity in the workplace. 5. Myth: Perfectionism is a sign of high standards Having high standards and being a perfectionist are two very different animals. Perfectionism is an extreme and often unrealistic standard that can lead to negative consequences. Whereas if you have high standards then this will not only cultivate an increased level of motivation, but will also allow you to take a step back at your setbacks so you can solve the issues, instead of being destroyed by them. 6. Myth: Perfectionism is a positive motivator In actuality, being a perfectionist can tear apart much of the motivation that you have. Perfectionism can be self-defeating which could lead to procrastination, anxiety, and burnout. The constant need to be perfect can cause individuals you to focus on your mistakes rather than your accomplishments. This can lead to a lack of motivation and a sense of overwhelm. 7. Myth: Perfectionism is a necessary trait for success Now, you know that this is not the case, and that many people strive, work hard, and are very successful without being a perfectionist. You can achieve success without being perfect. You can embrace your imperfections and and learn from them. In so doing you are using your setbacks as strengths. By looking at the things that do not work out, evaluating your situation, and moving ahead with increased motivation, you are able to reach success by using your imperfections. So, if you want to be “Perfect”, that’s a great goal. Just don’t expect to reach it. Also, be able to forgive yourself when you don’t.

Achieve What You Want – How to Conquer Your Fears, Phobias, and Failures

Overcoming Obstacles: How to Conquer Your Fears, Phobias,
and Failures and Achieve What You Want

How often do you find yourself paralyzed by fear, crippled by some phobia, or simply think about and get discouraged by past failures?

Don’t worry, you’re not alone. We all face obstacles in life that can hinder our progress and hold us back from reaching our full potential. But what if I told you that it’s possible to overcome these obstacles and achieve what you truly want?

In this article, I will explore proven strategies and techniques that can help you conquer your fears, phobias, and failures.

By developing a growth mindset and facing your fears head-on, you will learn how to take control of your life and create the kind of future you desire.

If you’re ready to break free from the shackles of fear and failure, keep reading and discover the secrets to overcoming obstacles and achieving your dreams.

Understanding fears, phobias, and failures

Fears, phobias, and failures are common experiences that we encounter throughout our lives. Understanding the nature of these obstacles is the first step towards overcoming them.

Fears are often rooted in a sense of danger or uncertainty, triggering a fight-or-flight response.

Phobias, on the other hand, are intense and irrational fears of specific objects or situations.

Failures, while often seen as setbacks, can be valuable learning opportunities. It is important to recognize that fears, phobias, and failures are part of the human experience.

Once you understand our personal dynamics in relation to fear, only then can you begin to approach them with a mindset of growth and resilience.

The impact of fears, phobias, and failures on personal growth

Fears, phobias, and failures can have a significant impact on our personal growth. They can prevent us from taking risks, pursuing our passions, and reaching our full potential.

When we allow these obstacles to dictate our actions, we become stagnant and miss out on valuable opportunities for growth and development.

However, by embracing these challenges and learning from them, we can transform our fears, phobias, and failures into stepping stones towards success.

The key lies in our attitude and willingness to face these obstacles head-on.

Common fears, phobias, and failures

Everyone has their own unique set of fears, phobias, and failures. Some common fears include the fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of public speaking, and fear of the unknown.

Phobias can range from common ones like arachnophobia (fear of spiders) to more specific ones like aerophobia (fear of flying).

Failures can come in various forms, such as academic failures, career setbacks, or relationship difficulties. It’s essential to identify and understand your specific fears, phobias, and failures to effectively overcome them.

Overcoming fears and phobias

To overcome fears and phobias, it’s crucial to confront them directly. Avoidance only strengthens these obstacles, and makes them more difficult to overcome in the long run.

One effective strategy is gradual exposure, where you gradually expose yourself to the feared object or situation in a controlled and supportive environment. This process allows you to build resilience and reduce the intensity of your fear response over time.

Another approach is cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), which helps you challenge and reframe irrational thoughts and beliefs associated with your fears and phobias. Seeking professional help from a therapist or psychologist specializing in anxiety disorders can provide you with valuable guidance and support.

Strategies for conquering failures

Failures can be disheartening, but they should not define us. Instead of dwelling on past failures, you can focus on learning from them and then use them as stepping stones towards success.

You can begin building a growth mindset, which will emphasize the belief that your abilities and intelligence can be developed through dedication and hard work, is crucial in overcoming failures.

Setting realistic goals for yourself, and breaking them down into manageable steps, and celebrate small achievements along the way can be as important as the goal itself.

Surround yourself with a supportive network of friends, mentors, or coaches who can provide guidance and encouragement during challenging times.

Remember, failure is not the end (even though it sometimes feels like it); it’s an opportunity to learn, grow, and improve yourself.

Build resilience and self-confidence

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity and overcome challenges.
It’s a crucial skill in conquering fears, phobias, and failures.

Building resilience requires cultivating a positive mindset, practicing self-care, and developing healthy coping mechanisms. Engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment can help boost your self-confidence and resilience.

Additionally, taking care of your physical and mental well-being through regular exercise, proper nutrition, and mindful practice can provide a solid foundation for overcoming obstacles.

Seeking professional help and support

Sometimes, overcoming obstacles on our own can feel overwhelming. Seeking professional help and support is a brave and important step towards conquering fears, phobias, and failures.

Therapists, counselors, or coaches specializing in anxiety, phobias, and personal development can provide valuable insights, strategies, and support tailored to your specific needs. They can help you navigate through the challenges and guide you towards a path of personal growth and success.

Don’t hesitate to reach out for help when you need it; it’s a sign of strength, not weakness.

Success stories of individuals who overcame obstacles

Throughout history, countless individuals have faced and overcome their fears, phobias, and failures. These success stories can serve as inspiration and motivation for anyone on their journey to conquer obstacles.

For instance, J.K. Rowling, the author of the Harry Potter series, faced numerous rejections before finding success.

Oprah Winfrey, one of the most influential media personalities, overcame a difficult childhood to become a billionaire philanthropist.

These stories remind us that setbacks and failures are not the end of the road but opportunities for growth and transformation.

Personal development resources for overcoming obstacles

In addition to seeking professional help, personal development resources can provide you with valuable guidance and support in overcoming your obstacles, whatever they may be.

Books, podcasts, online courses, and workshops focused on self-improvement, resilience, and overcoming fears can offer practical strategies and tools.

Some highly recommended resources include “Daring Greatly” by Brené Brown, “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” by Mark Manson, and “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success” by Carol S. Dweck.

Engaging with these resources can provide new perspectives, insights, and techniques to help you conquer your fears, phobias, and failures.

In Conclusion: Embracing challenges and achieving personal growth

Overcoming fears, phobias, and failures is not an easy task, but it is possible.

By understanding the nature of these obstacles and adopting proven strategies, you can take control of your life and achieve what you truly want.

Embrace your challenges as opportunities for growth, and don’t let fear or failure hold you back. Remember that personal growth is a lifelong journey, and setbacks are simply part of the process.

With the right mindset, support, and determination, you can conquer your fears, phobias, and failures and create the future you desire. So, take that first step, believe in yourself, and start your journey towards personal growth and success today.

Congratulations! You’ve reached the end of this article.

I hope that theses brief insights shared here will empower you to overcome, or at least understand better your fears, phobias, and failures.

Remember, you have the ability to conquer any obstacle that stands in your way.

Embrace challenges, seek support when needed, and never stop believing in yourself. You have what it takes to achieve your dreams and create a life filled with joy, fulfillment, and success.

Here’s to a more productive life,

Robert Bates
Performance Psychology Consultants

Use and Art of Artificial Intelligence

Welcome to the world of A.I.

Artificial Intelligence – What is it really?

Ever since the advent of the harnessing of electricity, and the light bulb, the concept of artificial intelligence began.

Your light bulb switch was the beginning of the two digits that

today run your computers, cell phones, garage door openers, and even your refrigerators. In other words, there are very few things that are not run by some form of two number binary interface.

Your light switch is an “ON” and “Off” mechanism. Consider that On is a one (1) and Off is a zero (0).

Those two (actually only just one) numbers are zero (0) and one (1). Zero is actually not consider a number, so let’s just call it a Digit.  All of “Computerdom” uses these two numbers (digits) – ONLY!  That is not to say it won’t change, and some researcher won’t come up with at way to add another number (I want to see them use Pi), but for now these two lovely little digits are it, that is unless someone else has added something of which I am unaware.

Come to think of it, I hope they don’t add a number. I have enough trouble figuring out the things with only two digits.

Most people who have have the pleasure of doing any investigating in the digital world already know that the two digit

binary system is in place.

Moving forward, the basic household light switch evolved into vacuum tubes, which were used to run radios and the first television. Hence the alternate designated name for a television was coined “The Tube”. Folks would watch “The Tube”.

You may have heard the term “Boob Tube”.  Yes, people used to spend way too much time watching a screen even back then.

Then came the silicon chip, circuit boards, micro-chips, and I’m not sure what they have now. I know things have gotten much smaller. They have managed to fit a great deal more processing into a much smaller space. Think Nano technology, machines that can go strolling around in your bloodstream.

Now we have Artificial Intelligence. This technology falls into the category of programming. Programming is the manipulation of all of those zero’s and one’s into specific configurations that will allow the end user to do various things, such as write about 0’s and 1’s.

The A.I. technology is an extremely sophisticated form of programming that is highly detailed, and researched. But then I doubt I had to mention that part.

Not really new

When it comes right down to it, artificial intelligence is not really a very new thing. The original computers were used for basic word processing, and information processing.

Things then evolved, and then the computer became an information resource. If you have ever used Google (Duh!), then you have been using artificial intelligence, but at a much less sophisticated level then this newest incarnation.

What we have now has been referred to as a “Game Changer”, a term which I have trouble disputing due to the power of what I am seeing it do.

My best guess as to what is likely to come along next in the line of this highly advanced techology is the “Human Robot”. It will likely be called something different, but it will basically be an advanced form of robotics coupled with the latest versions of A.I. technology.

Before I get into the use, and the things that this present version of A.I. can do, I want to give you some general feedback from the technology experts.

There are two schools of thought. The first is that this technology will advance, and that it will be the best thing since sliced bread – or the Kardasians. I’ll take the sliced bread, toasted with a little honey (no, not a Kardasian), on the bread.

The second school considers this technology dangerous. any guesses why?

Well, this stuff is advancing by leaps and bounds. When, not if, they can give this techology the ability to become self-aware, then there is the situation of whether or not it becomes human, or at least a sentiant being that is aware of itself and its surroundings.

Some think it can’t happen, others say it’s only a matter of time.

If your computer becomes self-aware, then it should be able to understand exactly what you are doing with it. It would be able to give you input – without you asking for it. It would be like having someone else in the room talking to you, giving you guidance, or possibly giving you grief.

What if it doesn’t want to be turned off? What if it doesn’t want to work on what you want to work? (self-aware remember).

Can things go this far? Will this technology be safe? Can it really be made to be self-aware, but not have a will of its own?

I guess time will tell. In the meantime, it does give you (and me) something to consider.


Artificial Intelligence – what can it do now?

In the first portion of this writing, I alluded to a few of the many ways

that A.I. is being used. Facebook (so I have read) has bean using this technology for a number of years to stay ahead of the Social Media game.

Many of the “Big Gun” manufacturers have also been using A.I. to bring in additional profits. Now it’s your turn.

Do you know that all of these “I’m Nancy, can I help you”, or “I’m Jeremy, how can I help” images, or similar iteratins that pop up on so many websites, are using some form of artificial intelligence to run the program?

This technology has been around for a while – but now it has been made even more advanced, and available to you.

Be Amazed

I’m sure that you have heard of this technology, and may have tried it, or even be using it.

If you are using this technology, can you remember the very first time

putting in information and then being awe struck at the results of your question? For most people “Wow” is what comes to their minds.

Of course when you use it a little, you do begin to realize that it does have its shortcomings.

As incredible as this technology appears to be, it is still comforting to know that humans will not be replaced any time in the very near future.

Who knows about next month!

A.I. itself admits that it has not yet come into its own

The following is from a question that I asked in ChatGpt:

The question is:  What are some of the most important things to understand about AI when using it? I would have worded it differently,but it was one of the first times using the software.

Here is the answer:

1. AI is not perfect: While AI has come a long way in recent years, it is not infallible. It can make mistakes and errors, just like humans.

2. AI needs data: AI systems require large amounts of data to learn and improve their performance. Without enough data, AI systems may not be able to make accurate predictions or decisions.

3. Bias can be a problem: AI systems can be biased if they are trained on biased data or if the algorithms used to create them are biased. It’s important to be aware of this and take steps to mitigate bias when using AI.

4. AI is not a replacement for human judgment: While AI can be a powerful tool, it should not be relied on as a replacement for human judgment. Human oversight and input is still necessary to ensure the best outcomes.

5. AI is constantly evolving: AI technology is constantly evolving, which means that best practices and techniques for using it may change over time. It’s important to stay up-to-date with the latest developments in AI to get the most out of it.

Okay, let’s get into using an A.I. program.


In case you are not familiar with this term, it means
Garbage In – Garbage Out, and has been used in the world of

programming for quite some time.

If a programmer does not know what they are doing, or if they

don’t check everything, and test out their “Masterpiece” program, then
it may be that the program itself is “Garbage”, or has elements of it that

don’t make sense to a computer.

In non-computer terms, GIGO simply means that

“You get what you ask for” – sometimes.

In General

When you ask AI to do something, you will often find that it spouts back a lot of superficial information. It may sound good to you, but if you are knowledgeable about the subject, then you will immediately realize that what you are reading is superficial for the most part.

Unless you are an expert on a subject, you will find that most of your AI answers will not be specific. The logical thing to do is to get more specific – right?  Well, maybe.

Again, remember you don’t know much about the subject.

I recently spoke with a friend of mine who coaches gymnastics.

He used a ChatGpt program for a particular purpose, with a particular focus. What he got back was specific and to the point.

Most people who know little about gymnastics would, first, not know how to ask an in-depth question, let alone understand the meaning of much of the answer to the question.

Ask yourself, “Do I know enough to ask a relevant question?

I think that this is the biggest mistake that most people make in general. I you are sketchy on anything you want to write, or talk about,
then it is good policy to actually do some research first so that you have

at least a basic idea of what you need.

For instance, let me stick with gymnastics since I mentioned it earlier.

Getting back to A.I., you might ask something like “What are the 10 hardest moves in gymnastics.

Now that might seem general, and in a way it is, but there are many events. There are women’s events (bars, floor, beam, and vault), men’s events (6 of them- rings, high-bar, floor, pommel horse, vault, and parallel bars).  Do you ask about men’s, or women’s events? Rings or beam?

There are also more events such as acrobatics with two or more participants.

Who could forget the tumbling and trampoline. All of these are sanctioned by the governing gymnastics association, and they hold competitions for each event.

My friend asked something like: “What are a good set of practice drills for the balance beam for girls level seven junior olympic competition?

As you can see this is quite specific. He told me it offered up a surprisingly good list of activities, complete with the appropriate names of the skills.

The point here is that the more you know, the better will be your results. That said, the more you know, the less you should have to rely on something like an artificial intelligence program for answers.

Bottom line on the A.I. questions that you need to ask is that you need to be specific. Even then you need to be aware of grammer, syntax, and how the text reads. It often sounds pretty good, but you are (should be) the expert. ALWAYS check for accuracy of content.

I have run into the issue of getting too specific, and I get back much of the same information (and wording) as in previous tries and results. Remember that you may have to re-word things in different ways in order to get the correct result for which you are searching.

Often the answer will be similar, but not worded the same, and you are getting basically the same information packaged slightly different.

If you use A.I. then be aware that all is not flowers and sunshine.

There are a lot of storm clouds that you need to steer away from. Just

don’t look up too late, and realize that someone, or something has rained on your parade.

Just one last thing, not all of the stuff coming out of artificial intelligence software is clean. By clean I mean that you need to be aware of copywriting infringement which is another reason to get your ideas, and do some re-writing.

Unless you are using a program that guarantees the results will not contain any plagiarized material, my best suggestion is to

run things through some programs that checks for infringement, or simply

re-write things into you own words and personality. I personally suggest the re-write as there will be no question it comes from you.

One thing to keep in mind when purchasing anything. There are some people who will be using A.I. exclusively, even though they know nothing about a subject. Obviously, this could be dangerous, or at least a waste of time and money if you purchase information online.

Be sure that the person(s) you buy from has experience, and background in the subject they are promoting, and hopefully, that they are actually doing the proper due diligence necessary to keep the information up-to-date and correct. Now, more than ever it is “Buyer Beware”.



Artificial Intellingence and imaging.

A.I. can produce some really nice imaging, but it is not the same as using
it for writing. Let me re-phrase. You still have to input information, but
what, and how you set up your input is a bit different.

I have written a tutorial on using A.I., complete with
images and explanations. It is short and to the point.

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